Saturday, September 13, 2014
Today is the best day ever. I am marrying my best friend and the only person I would ever, truly want to spend the rest of my life with. She is everything to me; my soulmate and my love. We have been through a lot together and that only made us stronger as a whole. We have something amazing and wonderful. I have learned so much about what love, family and life is really all about and we keep growing each day as one. I am so grateful and happy that words will not even do it justice. I just wanted to put it out there with love. Today is the best day ever - I love you Maryellen, until the end of time and space... beyond any kind of infinity and measurement.
Monday, September 1, 2014
Be with someone you can count on. Someone who doesn't make you wait. Someone who puts you ahead of everybody else and makes you a priority. Someone who loves you for who you are. Not just for your face, body or purely physical reasons. Yes, those are important, but only a detail when it comes to what really matters. Find someone who can be your rock. Someone who you can turn to in any situation and they will support you. Someone who you can call your best friend and mean it. Be with someone who you can say, above all, that you love them completely. There is nothing better than that.
Saturday, August 23, 2014
sometimes I'm like a child
and all the worlds a wonder
I like the color blue
and the sound of thunder
sometimes life simple and
other times it's much harder
there isn't always a simple rhyme and reason
for every emotion and every given season
I can just sit and wonder while time keeps ticking
life is like a movie and it's definitely worth watching.
Thursday, July 31, 2014
When we start out in life, we don't just go and immediately pick a person to spend the rest of our lives with. In fact, many of us pick and pick again. Its not about picking, but being, just be. There is something amazing about waking up next to a person who not only is your best friend, but your love, your life and your partner I crime. Lucky are the ones who know what I am talking about.
Sunday, July 13, 2014
This is a subject I am still learning so much about. Family means so many different things to people. It could be the friends a person has chosen to surround themselves with or be by blood or even a combination of both.
I had a skewed view regarding my family of origin. I feel like I never truly knew what a family was actually supposed tone or not, but I did not get the warm fuzzies from mine. Ever. You see, I learned how to call my relatives idiots for no apparent reason at all and instead of learning to forgive and stay in contact; I was shown the compete opposite. Now, it also about choices and I chose to believe what I learned for many years. I would be remiss to say that if I could go back and do things differently, I would. I have learned the true meaning of family: love. Unconditional and without any judgement at all. No filters and no bullshit. I cherish the people in my life who I consider famy. Period. Whether they are blood or not; I love you all with my heart.
Friday, June 20, 2014
Instead of worrying about everything we can't control, just enjoy the moment you have right now. Instead of thinking about all of the things you so badly want, how about being grateful for what you already have. Yes, the simplest shift in thinking will open new doors, turn frowns to smiles and work wonders. Try it and see.
Saturday, June 7, 2014
I want to learn a way of making better decisions. Learning from my mistakes is key, of course.
Over the years, I have absolutely made some horrific decisions. Ones that will last me the rest of my life. Ones that have cut off my ties with my children and others that have been financially devastating. I'm not trying to be self-deprecating or beat myself up over past screw ups, but rather keep learning from them and pulling out the helpful tidbits and use them to avoid making the same bad decision next time. Sure, we all screw up from time to time, because we're human and I'm no better or worse than anybody else.
I just want to learn a better way of making decisions, being smarter and more aware before I do anything and ultimately make the best decisions I can.
Friday, May 30, 2014
Thursday, May 29, 2014
It's funny how many people seemed to be very win-oriented. It's not a bad thing. There is more to life than winning and losing. There are lessons to be learned from not only each defeat, but also learned when we win. So, it kind of makes every win a win-win scenario. Keep on learning, trying, pushing forward and no matter what, never give up.
Wednesday, May 28, 2014
It's perfectly fine to stumble and make mistakes. In fact, it's what makes us human. We can feel, see and hear when we do something wrong. Then, it helps us learn how to do things right. And, it doesn't happen overnight. Life is all about trusting the process. It works, you just have to let it.
Sunday, May 11, 2014
I rarely speak about my Mother, but being this is the 2nd Mother's Day since her passing, it felt like the right time.
She was a person who held her cards very close to the vest. Loved to cook and we always had a freshly prepared dinner each night. Random, no, just telling her story. My mom grew up in the Bronx and was raised in a household where her father, aka pop pop, ruled with an iron fist. No. he was not my favorite either. She was a very shy and reserved person who was typically quiet if she didn't know you.
She worked as a secretary before meeting my father. They started dating before he was drafted in the Korean War. She promised to wait for him until he returned safely from his duty overseas. They eventually got married and started our family.
I have an older brother, Stuart and older sister, Shari. We moved from The Bronx down to Marlboro in 1971. My father had just started his own CPA firm at that point.
After being a stay at home mom for years, my mother joined my father and helped with his growing business. They were a good team and worked really hard together.
In 1997 they sold the house in Marlboro and moved to Boynton Beach, Florida.
I really grew up with a decent relationship with my mother, but she was also not always warm and fuzzy. Any of my friends can attest to this. It wasn't until a few months before her death, that I learned why. Her father was very abusive and she carried that burden her whole life. So very unfortunate, because it made her so timid and so reserved in many aspects.
As her dementia got worse, my mom kept asking some of her usual questions and slowly would forget the answers.
She was misunderstood because she wasn't able to communicate well with others or tell people why. She was very blunt though and had no problem telling people like it was. That always made me smile.
I miss my mom and love her no matter what. Mother's Day won't ever be the same without her.
Thursday, May 1, 2014
“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.”
— Kurt Vonnegut
— Kurt Vonnegut
Monday, April 28, 2014
I have a confession to make: I can do better than I am doing. I have the ability and for whatever reason, I have not used all of it to better things. So, I am putting my best foot forward to apply myself in every way. My life and future depends on it. We only have one life and it's vital to live it in the best way possible. I believe in honoring my commitments and keeping any promises I do make. I am putting my best foot forward and making a difference.
Thursday, April 17, 2014
Even if we stumble and stumble again, we are still making progress. By making progress, we are moving forward. By moving forward we are not being stuck. Remember where you fell and be aware of that for next time and it will eventually not be a place you will fall. Keep pushing, don't let a setback set you back. Let it show you that you can and take another run at it. Nothing in life can be achieved without first making errors or mistakes. It makes is work hard and get the best possible results. Never give up and think positive. Those are two things that will always help you and your mindset. Rock on!!
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Monday, April 14, 2014
It hurts to let go. Sometimes it seems the harder you try to hold on to something or someone the more it wants to get away. You feel like some kind of criminal for having felt, for having wanted. For having wanted to be wanted. It confuses you, because you think that your feelings were wrong and it makes you feel so small because it’s so hard to keep it inside when you let it out and it doesn’t come back. You’re left so alone that you can’t explain. Damn, there’s nothing like that, is there? I’ve been there and you have too. You’re nodding your head. - Henry Rollins
In so many instances, I think about how our family of origin affects us. Sure, it may sound obvious, but the converse of that is we are not our parents. Yes, we may be similar, have a lot of their traits and even look like them. However, we are our persons. We have our own experiences, thoughts, tastes and opinions. There is no rule that states we have to be the same. As anybody at all. Be proud to be yourself and don't worry about what anybody else thinks. It's really none of their business.
Just be you and love who you are.
Friday, April 11, 2014
Learn to love yourself enough so that when someone enters your life that treats you negatively, you can stand up for yourself and have the strength to let them go. You can learn that it is okay to say no to anyone who is not willing to treat you with the love and respect you not only want, but also deserve. Have the courage to walk away from anything that does not serve you well. Search for your highest good.
(courtesy of Brigitte Nicole)
Thursday, April 10, 2014
As I'm sitting by the window on my daily commute, it's wonderful to sit and enjoy the sun streaming in my window. I can relax and enjoy the ride. Music flows through my headphones and my mind happily wanders. It is thinking good thoughts and that it will be a good day. Yes it will. I am grateful for a new day and for all the small things in my life. After all is said and done, they add up to big things.
My quiet contemplation is great, because I can also plan he day ahead and what needs to be done.
I also have time to just be. Be thankful. Be myself and be able to enjoy these moments in life. Be still and take in he world all around me.
Life is really very simple and there is no reason toake it complicated. I'm just enjoying the ride.
Wednesday, April 9, 2014
"Something wonderful begins to happen with the simple realization that life, like an automobile, is driven from the inside out, not the other way around. As you focus more on becoming more peaceful with where you are, rather than focusing on where you would rather be, you begin to find peace right now, in the present. Then, as you move around, try new things, and meet new people, you carry that sense of inner peace with you. It’s absolutely true that, “Wherever you go, there you are”"
- Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
- Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Tuesday, April 8, 2014
Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you. Who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. Fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. Fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. Do not fall in love only with a body or with a face; or with the idea of being in love. - Brigitte Nicole
They say love is blind. I disagree. Infatuation is blind. Love is all-seeing and accepting. Love is seeing the flaws and blemishes and accepting them. Love is accepting the bad habits and mannerisms, and working around them. Love is recognizing all the fears and insecurities, and knowing your role is to comfort. Love is working through all the challenges and painful times. Infatuation is fragile and will shatter when life is not perfect. Love is strong and it strengthens because it is real.
~ Anonymous 💕
Monday, April 7, 2014
All things are difficult before they are easy, and the roughest roads often lead to the top. There are simply no easy roads to anywhere worth going. Which is why you must endure the discomfort. Do what is right for your future, not what is easy right now. So, don’t stop when you’re tired. Stop when you’re done. Remember that smooth seas never made for a skilled sailor and you can't cross TY ocean with fear of leaving the shore. Life is too short to think "what if" and nobody ever said it would be easy. It is worth it. I promise you.
Friday, April 4, 2014
No one has the right to tell you that their life is harder than yours. No one has the right to invalidate your struggles because they “got through it just fine.” No one has the right to tell you to suck it up because other people have it “worse.” Hardships are not comparable. Your struggles are real, legitimate, and just as difficult as anyone else’s. Remember that.
Thursday, April 3, 2014
Ask yourself: what can I do better today? Well then, just do it. Sounds simple enough and the action should be just that simple.
That's my new way to live. I have spent enough days not caring enough to ask that. Today is the first day I will ask it and take the action to back it up.
What can I do better today? I will look at work first, where I need to push and work smarter, in order to achieve my success and have an awesome career.
At home, there are so many things I can do. It starts with attitude and carries over into every area of our lives.
I have so much to give, and I am starting to give back. Right now, right here.
My gratitude will indeed show, but my actions are the real story. Those are unmistakable and real.
Monday, March 31, 2014
You can’t underestimate a person who always works hard. Be that person. In life, you don’t get what you wish for; you get what you work for. Always remember that the task ahead of you is never greater than the strength within you. Do what’s right, not what’s easy. Your dreams are worth it.
Life doesn't have feelings and can't feel what you are going through. It's hard to push forward if you let something hold you back. People have bad days, bad moments and bad hours; yet they still manage to get things done. What makes any of us so special, that we feel the rules don't apply? No matter what, the sun will rise tomorrow and a new day will be here. That means you have a new 24 hours to make it mean something. I know every decision I make, has already been made before I actually make it and a key element of life is take responsibility for our actions. Being accountable is a good trait; it means we admit to doing, saying, acting certain ways. The reason doesn't matter, it's already done and can't be undone. The worst thing a person can do, is to make excuses. I have learned this the hard way, from experience. I have stumbled so many times, that I laugh after a while. It's not so much amusing, as it is an admission of my mistake. If I use laughter to help me learn from my mistakes, I can be a better person each time and even smile about it. I have a lot of work to do and I am going to do that work. Some of it is spiritual, some job-related and some is relationship improvement. If I fail to get what needs to be done, the results will be horrible and I do not want that. It all needs to be done, in order to live life to its fullest. In fact, there are rewards that can't be measured by any means. They are the little things that add up to be big things. I have a lot of work to do, but it is all more than worthwhile. This is a daily process with no expiration date, until we expire.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
When other people treat you poorly, keep being you. Don’t ever let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are. Don’t let the silly little dramas of each day get you down either. Stay positive when negativity surrounds you. It takes one positive thought to overpower an array of negative ones. People who are able to find the one positive point in negative situations are the ones who never give up.
If you care too much about what other people think, in a way, you will always be their prisoner. You are good enough, smart enough, and strong enough. You don’t need other people to validate you; you’re already valuable. Don't ever forget that!
Don’t let past relationships and old mistakes ruin your future. Don’t let someone or something that didn’t make it in your life continue to hurt you. If you do, you’re still giving a portion of your life to something that no longer exists – it’s like letting your happiness slip into a black hole. Learn the lesson, release the pain, and move on. Scars remind us of where we have been, not where we are headed.
Your soulmate is not someone that comes into your life peacefully. It is who comes to make you question things, who changes your reality, somebody that marks a before and after in your life. It is not the human being everyone has idealized, but an ordinary person, who manages to revolutionize your world in a second.
When things go wrong as they sometimes will. When the road you are trudging seems all uphill; when the funds are low, and the debts are high, and you want to smile, but you have to sigh; when care is pressing you down a bit - rest if you must, but don't quit.
life is a learning process. we never stop learning. sometimes, we stumble. we're human and not perfect. what's important, is to learn and put the work in to get what needs to be done. nobody ever said it would be easy, but I promise it'll be worth it. rock on and keep your eyes on the prize. #kugey#quotes