Wednesday, September 28, 2011

“A new year is a blossom with petals curled tightly, concealing the beauty within.” Shana Tova! ~ beautifully stated by Paulo Coelho

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Learning Each Day

I like to learn. It's much better than thinking one knows everything & it's helpful versus not. Each day, there will no doubt be some kind of challenge; this is a fact. By learning, I can overcome more challenges each day. To me, that's huge!!

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Understanding

Communication is vital to friends and lovers alike. Sometimes, that communication needs to slow down and be gentle. The facts need to be clearly laid out; then spoken about in a gentle and non-confrontational way. This is how we reach understanding. If we are too aggressive, the point gets lost and typically leads to an argument or worse. I have learned to slow down, identify what the problem is, resolve it and let it go. After these actions, it brings understanding and thereby patching the hole. Kindness is also part of understanding and further helps things get smoothed out.

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Facing Fears...

I am a person who likes to think that they have little or no fear. Well, I got news for you: even though I make a valiant effort, things will still cause me to freeze, feel fear or react in an inappropriate way. Dealing with certain people; despite all of the work I've done on myself, still proves to be a challenge. Not just to stand up for myself, but to be assertive and not aggressive. Sure, they have been talking about this kind behavior for years, but I'm still learning. Although a clever way of looking at fear is: False Evidence Appearing Real; I must push though it and get to where I'm doing the right thing.
The hard part - again - is action. Instead of saying to myself what I need to/or will do; I must simply just do it. Maybe a mantra needs to be created, but I kid you not - this is crucial to me. It's so easy for me to "yes" someone & make it non-confrontational. The converse of that is to stand up for myself, not back down & show that in a no-aggressive way. It is a process and every day I am learning.

Gratitude List

This is a list of things I am grateful for - in no specific order:

myself
health
family
friends
girlfriend
children
family
sense of humor
humility
music
sunshine
the beach
the ocean
laughter
being alive
experience
learning
love
happiness
kindness
understanding
willingness
desire
passion
humility
nature
the sky (day & night)
the stars
dreams
life
each day + today
dogs, cats; animals
architecture
fashion
knowledge
actions
forgiveness
the small things
kissing
hands
feet
eyes
ears
nose
heart
sharing
unexpected things
everyone in my life...

<3 DK

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Communication Breakdown: part of being in a relationship is listening, not just hearing. Then it works better. Makes a huge difference.