Monday, July 2, 2012

Knowing It Is Not Your Fault

One of the greatest lessons I have learned in the last 10 years; has been how to know when something is not done by hands & not my fault at all.  Many people like to play the 'blame game".  My family was not different.  I had to unlearn many things from when I grew up; especially when it came to owning something I did wrong.  With that, is the realization that unless a person has actually done something wrong; transgression or not, against another person - they are not at fault in any way. Just to be very clear:  if another person tries to hurt or do anything damaging to another person, they are dead-wrong; so this is not a "get out of jail free" card or anything like that. Dealing with this has been a real eye-opener & it also allowed me to gain awareness in so many ways. It also allows us to share that with others; removing that false guilt from them & letting them know they are not at fault.  Sure, it is very hard to convey this to anybody; it was to me in the beginning.  Then, as a person slowly learns, by looking at their past & family of origin; it begins to become clearer.  Same thing for me; took a little while and then I was like "oh, wow".  
This also ties very closely to being gentle on one's self and knowing there is nothing wrong with stumbling in life. Just wanted to share this with you today.  Thanks!

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